Action Society believes that it is everyone’s duty to help those who are being abused. We uphold the mantra of Ubuntu and believe that every woman and child should be protected from harm in a country where violence against them is at an all-time high.
Supporting someone in an abusive relationship can be challenging, but your support can make a significant difference. Here are some ways to help:
- Listen and Validate: Offer a safe space for them to express their feelings without judgment. Validate their emotions and let them know feeling scared or confused is okay.
- Educate Yourself: Learn about the dynamics of abusive relationships, including the cycle of abuse. This knowledge can help you understand what they’re going through.
- Be Patient: They may not be ready to leave the relationship or may return after attempting to leave. Be patient and continue to offer support regardless of their choices.
- Encourage Professional Help: Suggest they talk to a counsellor or a support group specialising in abuse. Professional help can provide tools and strategies for coping.
- Create a Safety Plan: Help them think through options for leaving safely, including where they could go and what they might need.
- Maintain Contact: Check in regularly. Isolation can worsen their situation, so keeping in touch can help them feel supported and connected.
- Avoid Ultimatums: While it can be tempting to urge them to leave, ultimatums can push them away. Instead, focus on being a supportive presence.
- Respect Their Decisions: Ultimately, they are in control of their choices. Respecting their decisions, even if you disagree, is crucial.
- Take Care of Yourself: Supporting someone in this situation can be emotionally taxing. Make sure you also have support and resources for your own well-being.
- Know Resources: Familiarise yourself with local shelters, hotlines, and resources they can access if they seek help.
Your empathy and understanding can be a lifeline for someone experiencing abuse.
